This section of my web site was inspired by my very wonderful best friend, because I am worried about him and want to help him to feel happier and less worried. You know who you are, and everything on this section is for you, because you are an very wonderful lovely compassionate gentle sweet natured person who deserves to always feel good about yourself. :) These words are also for all you other wonderful lovely people out there, people who i may never know or meet, but who are still lovely people, and deserve to feel good. :)

In this section there are postive ways to think about yourself and about life, these are all things that helped me very much indeed when my depression was bad, I am not completely better yet. I still have good days and bad days, and always will, but learning these new ways to see myself helped me so much. I hope that they might be able to help other people too, whether you just feel a bit low and tend to blame yourself when things go wrong, or if you feel all the time depressed. I hope they can help, and please remember depression is an illness just like any other illness and it isn't your fault, so never blame yourself for the way you feel.

I know these things arn't always easy to do, espeicially when everything seems black, they werent easy for me either, and they arn't always easy now. At first I had to tell myself these things every day, over and over again. I know these wont help everyone, and I dont have all the answers, these are just here to try to help anyone that feels they make sense for them.

Love yourself, because you deserve to be loved, because you are an wonderful human and because everyone deserves to be loved.

Don't beat yourself up with guilt when you make a mistake. You are only human and it is very human that you make mistakes, this is how you learn and grow. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone sometimes fails, even those who seem perfect are probably scared and vunerable inside themselves. When you make a mistake treat it as a learning experience, dont bash yourself with the big guilt stick, dont torture yourself and tie yourself up in knots inside going over and over it in your mind, what does that achieve, other than to make you miserable? Learn from the mistake, then put it aside and go on with your life.

When you feel guilty for something you have done remember that everyone feels guilty sometimes, you are not alone.

Making a mistake isnt a huge disaster, if you never made mistakes you would never learn anything. Life is a learning process, and mistakes help us to learn. No one is perfect, *resists temptation to say except me ;)* love and accept yourself as an fallible person with faults, who sometimes makes mistakes, be happy to be you.

So long as you learn from the mistakes you make why should you feel guilty or bad ? Dont dwell on guilt, you will never be perfect, love and accept yourself as an imperfect person who will always make mistakes, just like everyone does.

Like yourself because you are a valuable unique person, treasure your uniqueness, love yourself for who you are, and accept your failings.

Hug yourself often, no, you dont have to be double jointed ;) Just make an image inside your mind of giving yourself an big hug, full of love for yourself. Feel yourself holding yourself, warm and gentle, loving yourself because you are a wonderful person.

No one is completely bad, apart from a few very evil people who rape and kill for pleasure and feel no guilt for it. Know your good points and believe in them, feel good about yourself everyday. Praise yourself for your good points whatever they are. Dont dwell on your failings, tell yourself about all the many things which are wonderful lovely and beautifull about you, because you are a lovely human being.

You're not the only one who feels this way, you are not alone. Everyone has fears and worries and feels guilty or sad sometimes, it's part of being human. Some people just hide their feelings better than others, accept yourself for who you are, and accept others for who they are.

Dont let negative thougts dominate you, try to turn them off and think good things about yourself. You deserve to love yourself and feel good about yourself. Kick those negative thoughts out of your mind, tell them to go away because you dont need or want them anymore.

Don't let negative thoughts trap you in an downward spiral of ever growing depression and guilt, negative thoughts start out small but grow bigger the more you focus on them. You haven't done anything which deserves punishing yourself in such an way, you dont deserve to be tortured by an never ending spiral of negative thoughts. Be kind and gentle to yourself, you wouldn't do this to anyone else so dont do it to yourself, love yourself as you love others. You deserve it because you are lovable.

The world is a beautifull lovely place, see the joy and wonder in little things, the rainbows dancing on the surface of a bubble in a bowl of washing up, the details in a flower, the way leaves shine like jewells when the sun touches them, the sky and the stars. Turn off your thoughts for a few minutes and see the fascinating beauty and wonder in things around you.

Know your good points, your talents, your skills, everyone has good things about them and talents. Everyone is just as valuable and wonderful as everyone else. Compassion and sensitivity for others feelings are just as valuable as being creative or having talents for art or music or making money, everyone has special things they are naturally good at, value those things about you. Be proud of them, feel good about them. They make you who you are.

Dont stress all the time, who said that life is all about being part of some kind of frantic race for sucess? Make time to rest and relax your tired mind. Try to have an calm peacefull oasis inside you where you can escape for an time every day, an place of harmony and love and joy. Look at animals do they rush around all the time frantic to suceed? Do they stress and worry and never relax?

Don't dwell too much on the past, you cant alter the past so try not to let it be an trap of pain and guilt. Live in the present, try to take fun laughter and joy from each minute, even if your life isnt right now all that you would wish, there is still beauty and humour to be found. Dream of an happier future, let your dreams fill you with warmth and joy, imagine yourself being places you want to be and feel the joy of it. Dreams are wonderful things, and there is enough magic in the world to make them come true.

Laughter heals, try to see the fun and humour in everyday things, live with an lightness in you which can laugh at how silly and funny the world often is. Be childlike in your humour and your ability to have fun, who said that adults have to be always sensible and can never play like children do? Relax, live lightly and let the child within you come out to play, let yourself laugh. Laugh with love and joy to live in such an wonderful world so full of beauty and mystery and things yet to discover.

Above everything always know that you are an wonderful special unique person, with many lovely things about you. You deserve to be treated well, and to be loved and liked. If people dont like you thats their loss, there are plenty of people out there who will love you for who you are. Treasure yourself, value yourself just as you are, you are an wonderful person because you are not perfect. :):):)

May this page help you to make your dreams come true, and to find joy and laughter again, may it help you to dance among the flowers as a child dances. This is for my wonderful friend who is able to play like an big lovable wonderful child full of humour and joy, I'm hoping that he can find this part of him again. :) It's also for everyone else who is sad or stressed or feeling low, for everyone who wants to find the happy innocent child inside. If it helps one person then it has been a success. :)